Reclaiming Yourself: Finding Purpose After Job Loss
From corporate giants downsizing to government job cuts and widespread industry shifts, the landscape of work feels more uncertain than ever. One day, you’re in a routine—meetings, projects, deadlines—and the next, you’re handed a severance package and an abrupt ending. And for many, a job isn’t just a way to make money; it’s a calling driven by something bigger than just a paycheck. It’s important to recognize that these feelings are valid and worth processing.
The psychological toll of job loss is real, and the fear of having the rug pulled out from under you is enough to send anyone spiraling. Losing a job, whether through layoff, being managed out, or termination, often feels deeply personal. This is all too true for many in the federal government right now. This sudden disruption can trigger a crisis of identity and self-worth, feelings of rejection, shame, uncertainty about the future/finances, or cause a serious bout of imposter syndrome.
It’s worth noting: Many companies manipulate their “bottom line” by resorting to layoffs, often under intense monetary pressure. Lately, we’ve seen companies go even further, pinning the blame on employees’ performance. But hear this: You are smart. You are valuable. You do good work—and you will land on your feet. Repeat as needed.
To address the *big* questions: How do you move forward? How can you regain your balance? We’ll dive into navigating this uncertain time and find your footing again (hint: I’ll be using the word “feel” a lot).
Step 1: Process loss + feel your feelings.
Give yourself permission to experience the full range of emotions—from relief to rage, grief to anticipation. Emotions aren’t linear; some days will feel lighter than others. And that’s okay. Slap a sticky note on your mirror that says something adjacent to, “Today might be a dumpster fire, but tomorrow’s unwritten.”
Step 2: Reframe the narrative.
Instead of viewing the layoff as a reflection of your worth, try seeing it as an opportunity for realignment. Reframing is a common tool in cognitive behavioral therapy—and it’s helped me in so many ways.
A few Q’s to ponder:
What aspects of my previous role drained my energy?
What kind of work truly excites me?
How can this transition serve as a catalyst for positive change?
What’s next for me that will spark joy and purpose?
Journal these down and check back in with yourself in two weeks.
Step 3: Lean into what feels good.
Take time to reconnect with passions or interests you've set aside—whether it's art, writing, or learning something new. This isn’t just about filling time; it's about rediscovering the parts of yourself that go beyond your work. And when it comes to close loved ones—let them in on both your good days and bad days. They care deeply and can offer the support and perspective you need. Trying to stay strong all the time? Press pause on that for a while. It’s okay to show up as you are—vulnerable and real.
Step 4: Therapy can help (a lot).
While friends and family will provide invaluable support, deeper feelings may need specialized work to resolve. Working with a therapist can help you process those complex emotions, offer grounding techniques to get your nervous system back on track, and challenge unhelpful thought patterns that may be holding you back.
As someone who’s both a therapy consumer and a therapist-in-training, I understand the nuances of this journey. You really don’t have to do it alone, and therapy can help you rebuild confidence, resilience, and purpose.
Final thoughts.
Since my layoff, I’ve channeled my energy into rediscovering my passions and realigning with my health, from taking my vitamins to actually remembering to eat lunch. I’ve focused on slowing down to smell the roses (literally and figuratively). It’s been a journey of resilience, self-worth, and, perhaps most importantly, learning how to separate my self-worth from my employment status.
In moments of transition and the trauma of losing your job, mental health can feel like an afterthought, but in reality, it’s the building blog that will allow us to move forward with intentionality and strength. The right support—whether through self-guided self-reflection, professional mental health resources, or community networks—can make all the difference in rebuilding confidence and purpose as you move forward. This hiatus may serve as the perfect time to reestablish healthy habits around diet, sleep, and movement as part of your mental health journey. Lastly, lean into the support of friends, family, and professional networks, and don’t hesitate to reach out for guidance. Remember, a layoff is just an event in one chapter of your story—and thankfully, there are thousands of pages to be written.
